babies know and you've forgotten is that you begin
life as the center of your world's attention, with
more loving looks and more loving touches of your body
than you are ever going to experience again in your
All the rest of life is a
disappointment, a starvation, a search for whatever
will allow you to experience those looks
And those touches
You can never again be
that close to the center of your own world--even if
you become a star.
But most people don't even
come close to achieving what they had in that distant
past because most people don't consciously know what
they are missing and so what they are trying to
When people speak of
'unconditional love' that's as close as they can come
But how can they see again
the eyes and smiles of mother love?
And that endless
rocking--and all the rest.
Where can you get
After all, your 'partner'
wants that too.
How can you arrange a
'fair distribution' of some pale imitations of being
the center of the universe?
And if one person
unconsciously demands it while the other person is
unaware of the real issues (either for themself or for
their partner) what conflict